Share and critique: "Polyamorous relationships may be the future of love"

Monday 27 June 2016 / articles

Melissa Hogenboom writes Polyamorous relationships may be the future of love, a potentially controversial headline and one with which I'm largely inclined to agree. A good article on the whole - reasonably broad and thorough, and providing much-needed visibility for polyamorous people. What follows are a couple of short highlights and a number of critical comments on the content.

A few key statements:

"This all points to the fact that there is an intense 'pressure to pair'. Monogamy is surrounded by a glowing halo and anyone who deviates from this norm seems to be viewed negatively"[.]
Melissa Hogenboom
"[...] mainstream media almost accept affairs as a social norm. 'But when it comes to ethical non-monogamous relationships... this is considered [abnormal].'"
Melissa Hogenboom (nested quote: Maria Pallotta-Chiarolli)

A number of critical comments on the article:

"However, even poly[amorous] people say it is not clear cut. In [a] small 2005 survey Meg-John Barker of the Open University in the UK, asked 30 polyamorous people how they identify to find that about half saw it as 'a fairly fixed identity', while the other half saw [it] as a choice, as 'an ethical alternative to infidelity'. Eve and Franklin also suggest it can be a bit of both."
Melissa Hogenboom